Nick and I participate in a community group through our church. Our group is comprised of 9 couples and we meet each Sunday evening to talk about topics associated with whatever Bible-based series that we are studying. The most recent study book is called "Dream Team, The Power of Two" by Tommy Nelson. It is such a unique opportunity to sit down with several other couples and discuss what it takes to have a successful marriage. Last night, we finished with this question: Which of your spouse's qualities do you respect and admire the most? Well, because my better half is half a world away, I decided to share my answer via our blog...I like to think of it as the modern-day equivalent to shouting declarations from a mountain top. So here goes:
I admire my Nick's ability to make everything more fun, even things that are inherently un-fun. For example: Only he could have me laughing to the point of tears in the JAG office as we drew up our wills and powers of attorney. He was listing all of the absurd post-mortem demands that he would expect of me as his executor (does anyone know if it's feasible to rent the Oscar Meyer weiner mobile for a few hours to lead a funeral processional?) I so respect his quick wit and hilarious sense of humor.
I respect his desire to provide for and take care of me...Case and point: We were stuck in traffic for 5 hours driving from LA to Santa Barbara (to travel a mere 100 miles). I was 13 weeks pregnant and nauseous all the time. When we were just a few miles away from our hotel, I lost my Whole Foods lunch all over myself and our rental car without warning. It was not pretty. I repulsed myself. What does my Nick do? He pulled over to the side of the busy freeway, assured the CHP that we were ok, and cleaned me and the car up...He was my guardian angel.
I admire Nick's willingness to challenge himself. This is evidenced by the fact that he studied Chinese in college. Let's not forget that the Chinese language doesn't even share the same alphabet as we do...it has it's own dictionary of characters :-P. He also constructed a beautiful fence in our backyard with no experience in woodworking, he taught himself how to do it by talking to people, watching diy videos on you tube, and trial and error. It's absolutely perfect...
I respect Nick's desire to help others. That includes both people and animals. He is known to stop off at an accident to make sure that everyone is ok. I can't tell you how many times we've pulled over to the side of the road so that Nick can corral someone's pet, whose taking themselves for a walk, to carry them home.
I so admire my husband's positive attitude about everything. He doesn't complain. EVER. He can be finishing up a 16 hour night shift in a combat zone and never once will he mention feeling stressed or tired.
I respect Nick's bravery and his devotion to serving our country. He has volunteered to protect me, our family and friends, and all that America was founded upon. It's such a huge responsibility and he has accepted it readily. He sacrifices so much, whether it be sleeping on a grimy make-shift mattress, when he does get to sleep, or celebrating holidays without his loved ones, and never once does he complain. Instead he does it again and again, because he is passionate about the cause. I so admire his commitment to making this world a safer place for Emmy.
I could write a lot more, but I imagine that my humble husband will already be blushing when he reads this much...I am so blessed that God gave me Nick as a life partner and that Emmy has Nick as her father. I wholeheartedly believe that he embodies what God intended for a man to be.

P.S. Did I mention that I admire how insanely HANDSOME he is?! :-D